Talk:Sissyphobia: Gay Men and Effeminate Behavior

As an effeminate gay man, I read this book with great interest. Speaking as someone who has been on the receiving end of abuse from both gays and straights, I think he nailed it. What I've never understood, and I've read up on this for decades, and I've asked men forever who've made mocking comments about my, GASP! feminine demeanor, just why they are so offended. I've never received a truly worthwhile response. What is especially noteworthy is that I can never ever remember a woman being at all disparaging about my effeminacy. Indeed, they gravitate to me, enjoy hanging out, going to dinner, the movies, shopping.

Dan Collier, Gay New Yorker